Parents ask all the time, "What is going on? It seems like my child is resisting Everything!"
I reflect that question back to you, "What IS going on?"
What is happening with your child? How does their world look to them these days? Are big transitions going on? Are they going through a new phase? Are they growing? Are you growing with them? How are YOU doing? Are you Resisting?-them or their growth? Or are you resisting Life in general?
When children (or adults) are resisting life, or people or situations in their life, there is something deeper going on. Taking time to reflect upon what is going on in life can help us find some answers so we can move forward with understanding, and then find peace and acceptance.
In our home right now I have noticed Violet having some harder times, particularly after we have been not connected or after spending larger chunks of time doing other things and not connecting with one another. Regina has also been slightly under the weather which has meant that there are more moments of Regina having my attention or more moments of my attention going to cleaning up after her- instead of being more spread out between the whole family. So what is going on?
Violet is reacting with bigger emotions than normal because she has received less attention. She has also been feeling more out of control in regard to the fact that she's not getting her way in many situations. She is fine for oh so long, and then experiments with ways to get her control back. I saw this meme today:
I saw it on The Peaceful Papa's Facebook page.
Now, I'm not an authoritarian parent and in a 'literal' way this didn't directly apply to me right now, however, it brought me to the insight that Violet was seeking to tap back into her power and her ability to have control with her world. (I say "with" because I mean it as a co-creator. A co-creator with her family/others in her life and the grand scheme of the world-divine/universal creation).
I then see how I resist. I asked myself "What am I resisting?" The answer was taking time. I'm resisting taking time to connect with each person. I've been resisting Allowing emotions to just be. And most greatly, I've been resisting Connecting after she expresses big emotions.
After taking a few moments to gain clarity, I am more focused. I can see more clearly and make different choices. I get to choose to connect BEFORE we lose our connection. I have already (2 hours after gaining clarity) been able to Breathe into uncomfortableness and move forward with making more connection time-which has resulted in, you guessed it--a lot more peace and good vibes!
Hugs to all of you friends out there that are coming up against resistance-either your own, or your children's!