Intuitive Mommy, that's me. I came to this planet to be me and those are a couple of labels that sum me up. I am writing this because it has been on my mind lately and it's a good introduction into who I am and what I value.
I recently was chatting with a friend who found out she's pregnant. She mentioned that her intuition has been tested greatly since becoming pregnant. And I see pregnancy and parenthood as some sort of ultimate intuitive challenge. It's also a time when you are given an opportunity to connect with yourself and your true nature. For me that meant living in even more harmony with nature as well as tapping into my core self to really create the life I wanted to create.
When I became pregnant I experienced this profound opening. It was like my psychi was put into some sort of matrix machine and I had multiple downloads come in and these downloads were a regular occurrence. I also felt societal beliefs and judgments and an immense amount of external influence bombard me to challenge my intuition. These challenges were more pronounced after my first daughter was born. It was after she came to Earth that I began to hear 'parenting advice.' Thankfully, I didn't hear a lot of it, but it was interesting to see what people would say and how it felt to me-especially when it went against my heart and soul.
I naturally fell into attachment parenting, co-sleeping, baby wearing and all that jazz. I had no intention of co-sleeping, however once my daughter arrived I had her in my bed from the moment she was born and I never questioned it. It was the most natural thing in the world and so there she was. I didn't even know it was a 'thing' that people debated. I knew that some people were scared of rolling over on babies but that was the extent of it. I had zero fear, and went with what felt right for us.
I was beginning my degree in child development and I had taken some psych classes so I knew about secure attachments versus unhealthy attachments. While I was pregnant with my first, I read a Dr. Sears book that discussed AP and I read some of it out loud to my roomie and said "Duh- Do people have to be told that you should pick up a baby when they cry?" Looking back I realize my ignorance and I now have compassion for those whom this doesn't come naturally and for those who did not receive the proper treatment during their own childhood's so they are breaking that pattern for their own kids. But again, for me it was natural. There was no way I would entertain the idea of CIO (cry it out), because it felt biologically and intuitively wrong. It Hurt me to even think about it.
Deep within each of us, we have an inner voice, a compass that keeps us on track. As parents this inner voice can become quite strong, if we give it energy. If we listen.
As I observe parents of multiple children and after having my second, I usually see a neat shift. Parents can relax a little. They have more Trust. Trust in themselves, their kids, and the process of life. I also see parents become more in tune with their inner voice. Some even make big life changes between 1 and 2 (or 2-3 or 3-4 etc.) because of information they have come across due to listening to their intuition.
Now, speaking of information coming into our sphere-I am referencing when parents stumble upon reasons why spanking, or CIO or whatever it is, may not be the best, and it's often science based. So, I want to make sure you don't get me wrong with all of my 'energy, intuition' talk... I am also a lover of science. I love biology, anatomy, chemistry and physics (especially quantum physics), however I have found that my intuition trumps them all. I feel that as people, and in the role of 'parent,' we must take time to go within. To see what speaks to our soul. To hear our own truth. To trust ourselves. We truly have the answers. (This doesn't mean we don't need others. What it means is we can be guided on the right action, by listening to our inner voice. So if our inner voice says "take your child to the doctor, something isn't right," you can then listen and connect with another person to help you).
My biggest advice to all parents is to listen to themselves. Regardless of what another person, or some article says. You know your children the best. You have the ability to tap into yourself and see your truth. We all have intuition. It's possible that it has been hidden from your awareness, especially if you had a childhood that did't value it, however you can tap into it now!
Feel out each situation. If it feels right and good and lifts you up then there is your answer. If you feel icky, or bad, or low energy then it is not the right fit. Once you practice listening to yourself, you can practice Trusting yourself. Improving trust in yourself will also improve how much you trust and can pass along trust to your children. It will help you let go of inner turmoil and chatter. You can now move forward from your heart. Now doesn't that feel good?!! ;)